The benefits of marriage counseling and couples therapy...

  • You can stop fighting and put an end to old destructive patterns.

  • You can learn to communicate and resolve your differences. 

  • You can feel closer and develop a deeper emotional connection than ever before.

  • You can heal from the pain of the past and restore lost love.

  • You can discover how to really listen and understand each other.

  • You can understand each others deepest needs and be able to fulfill them.

  • You can build trust and feel safer and more secure both now and for the future.

  • You can count on your partner and know your partner is really there for you.

  • You can rekindle the spark and feel "in love" again.

  • You can heal from an affair or infidelity, rebuild trust and safety, and move forward.

  • You can rediscover an active and satisfying sex life.

  • You can start having fun again and enjoy being playful and affectionate.

  • You can have more energy for your work, your family, your friends, your hobbies.

Marriage counseling and couples therapy can help when...

  • You find yourself constantly fighting, stuck in conflict.  You are both so angry and hurt that you often say things that you later regret.  Efforts at conversation typically end in arguments.
  • You are going through a stressful life event.  For example, getting married, the birth of a child, the loss of a parent, changing jobs.  Such events can place great strain on a relationship.
  • Feelings of stress and upset are with you just about all the time.  You don't want it to be this way, but you don't know how to get things to change.  You may be losing hope for the future.
  • You feel like your partner just doesn't hear you or understand you.  You keep trying but it never seems to go anywhere.  You are frustrated and starting to feel burned out.
  • You're in a crisis due to threats of divorce.  You or your partner may be thinking about leaving the relationship.  The pain and the struggle have become too great to manage.
  • Your relationship is characterized by loneliness and distance.  Things may have deteriorated so much that you hardly talk to each other anymore.  You feel isolated and insecure.
  • You're world has been turned upside down by an affair or infidelity.  Your whole relationship feels like a lie.  The feelings of betrayal are overwhelming.  It feels like there's no answer.

  • You are sexually disatisfied.  Sex is either too infrequent, too much of a burden, or starting to feel like an obligation rather than a desire.  Your needs, or your partner's, are not being met.
  • You love your partner but you're not sure if you are "in love".  The spark is missing.  You long for the way it used to be and don't know how to get it back.  You feel like you're in a rut.

 "I truly felt all hope for my nine year marriage was lost.  I felt abandoned, isolated and unfulfilled, and the only natural conclusion to our story seemed to be a divorce. Dr. Zwerdling is so compassionate and supportive.  He offered us clear validation and helped us to see our strengths and hone in on the issues that kept us disconnected.  Now the thought of breaking apart our growing and fulfilling relationship seems out of the question.  Any couple having problems has so much to gain by working with Dr. Zwerdling."

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT):

Dr. Alan Zwerdling is proud to be the first therapist in Monmouth and Ocean Counties to be recognized with full certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy.  EFT is a powerful yet gentle approach to marriage counseling and couples therapy that can help you repair your distressed relationship and bring about real change.  EFT is commonly regarded as one of the most effective approaches to couples therapy and marriage counseling available today.  It is a highly researched, short-term and straightforward method that is balanced in its understanding of both men and women.  It has been shown to successfully help couples break old destructive patterns, create new emotional bonds, and find the closeness and security they truly desire.  And these results last!

EFT is different from standard couples therapy.  It focuses on breaking the negative cycles of interaction that keep couples stuck in conflict and misunderstanding.  It helps couples to establish a safe and secure emotional connection that invites deeper personal sharing, acceptance and intimacy.  Couples learn to "listen from the heart" for the feelings that lie beneath the words, and so are better able to understand one another and meet their partners' needs.  From this new connected place, it is much easier for couples to work together and to resolve their differences, to appreciate one another and remember the feelings that brought them together... and to fall in love all over again!   (Read more about EFT.)

You can have the relationship you long for...

Through marriage counseling or couples therapy you can end the feelings of loneliness and create intimacy, trust and true connection.  You can find closure from past hurts and move forward.  You can learn to communicate in a new way that deepens understanding and acceptance.  You can look forward to affection and reinvigorate your sex life.  You can stop fighting and start feeling loved and respected.  And you can feel safe and secure with a loving bond that has been proven to stand the test of time.

You're here for a reason...

You want to be supported in your relationship and feel sure that you are loved and respected.  You want things to work, to be easy. It doesn't have to be perfect, just comfortable, relaxed and happy - talking, laughing, touching - the way things should be.  Knowing your partner is truly there for you makes all the difference.  Marriage counseling and couples therapy can help.
As an experienced marriage counseling and couples therapy expert,  I  understand how couples can get stuck in conflicts even though they love each other and want to create closeness and intimacy.  I can give you the tools to improve communication, work out your differences, and find your way back to each other emotionally and physically.  If there's been an affair, I can offer you help to heal the pain and rebuild trust and security.  Unlike many other therapists, I specialize in couples therapy and marriage counseling, and I have trained extensively to bring you highly effective relationship help that is time tested, well researched and successful.  I am committed to bringing all my skills and experience to the repair and renewal of your marriage, even if the process is difficult at times.  Together we will focus on solutions to bring you happiness and lasting love.
For Information or Appointment Call: (732) 936-1212
Dr. Alan Zwerdling, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist, NJ License #2186
170 Route 35, Red Bank, NJ 07701
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"I feel like we have a whole new relationship.  For the first time I feel like we are together, like we are a team.  I like the way we feel connected and engaged.  I really like it".

here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

I carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

-e. e. cummings

The key to a loving bond often lies right before our eyes...

But we may not see it until we are taught how to look.

"Two years later we are still talking about Dr. Zwerdling and how much couples therapy with him helped us.  We learned how to really talk to each other. Now we can share our feelings and we don't get stuck in arguments the way we used to".

"Dr. Zwerdling has been invaluable in helping us show how much we care.  We didn't understand how to communicate our feelings and needs.  Couples therapy gave us the tools to be much more loving and respectful partners.  Every couple should see Dr. Zwerdling".

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"We thought we had a pretty good relationship when we started marriage counseling with Dr. Zwerdling.  But after just a few months we discovered how much closer we could be.  Our relationship is deeper than ever".

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Dr. Alan Zwerdling, Ph.D, is a highly experienced psychologist and relationship expert specializing in individual counseling, psychotherapy, marriage counseling, couples therapy, family therapy, pre-marriage counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy, counseling for depression, anxiety, stress, shame, fear, anger management, self-esteem, panic, grief, adjustment issues, conflict resolution, communication, PTSD, trauma, addiction, codependency, recovery, 12-Step, ACoA, alcoholism, drug abuse, affairs, infidelity, cheating, adultery, intimacy, love, dating, separation and divorce counseling, step-family and re-marriage adjustment.  His private office serves Red Bank, Middletown, Shrewsbury, Rumson, Navesink, Fair Haven, Holmdel, Colts Neck, Tinton Falls, Ocean Township, Long Branch, Eatontown, Asbury Park, Keyport, Hazlet, Lincroft, Marlboro, Manalapan, Highlands, Atlantic Highlands, Oceanport, Monmouth Beach, Spring Lake, Sea Girt, Manasquan, Oakhurst, Wall Township, Howell, Freehold, Aberdeen, Morganville, Matawan, Monmouth County, and the Jersey Shore, New Jersey.  07701, 07702, 07704, 07712, 07716, 07719, 07722, 07724, 07727, 07728, 07730, 07731, 07732, 07733, 07735, 07737, 07738, 07739, 07740, 07746, 07747, 07748, 07750, 07752, 07753, 07755, 07757, 07760, 07762, 07764.

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