"It has given my husband and I the tools we needed to save our marriage"
"I feel like we are closer after this experience than we've been in the 36 years we've been married."
Our 2-Day marriage retreat is receiving incredible reviews from couple after couple who have worked with us. From couples who just wanted to get out of a rut, to couples on the brink of divorce. Newlyweds too. This couples retreat really works.
We teach you how to look at your issues and understand them in a new way, based on the solid science of Emotionally Focused Therapy. We use popular movie and TV clips to illustrate our model and demonstrate how to start making your relationship better - with tools that you can start to use immediately.
We give you time to work on your own issues in private, with therapists standing by if you need them. We have developed highly effective exercises to get you moving in the right direction – quickly.
You will never be put on the spot. We don’t believe in shaming or blaming. You will never have to share anything personal unless you want to. Our marriage retreat is all about safety, understanding, and validation.
Hold Me Tight®Couples Workshops
"I feel like this weekend has changed my life!"
"One of the most profound experiences of our marriage"
In our Couples Retreat, You Can Rediscover Love –
A love that lasts and grows
A love that provides respect and security
A love that meets both partners' needs
A love that can be better than ever before.
®Hold Me Tight is a Registered Trademark of Dr. Susan Johnson
Reviews from Previous Participants:
The night before the workshop, I said I wasn't going to come. I was so hurt and disconnected from my husband for so long that I thought there was no hope. For some reason I decided to come. Never in my life have I felt more open, vulnerable and connected with anyone. The attachment model is so on target. My husband has never opened up or been vulnerable with me before this weekend. Today he looked me in my eyes, revealed his fears, and asked me to keep fighting. He also stopped and heard me truly. I know we have uncertainties to work through but I have intense hope that we can grow and overcome these obstacles now that we know how to stop the insanity and work together in a deep and connected way. Thank you.
The experience of the workshop has been on eye-opening one and I'm truly grateful that we came to this point at an earlier stage in our marriage and establishment of our family. I've gained a new confidence in myself and the bond with my wife this weekend and am able to take these new found tools with me to continue to strengthen our relationship. I was so unsure of my connection with my wife and truly crippled by my own insecurities before going through the workshop that I would have continued down the same hopeless path. Thank you so much for the gift you've given us and the breath of fresh air that I now feel like I have. I will never forget this experience and it's been one of the most meaningful experiences of my relationship with my wife, so from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Wow! is all I can say. There are no coincidences so it is not by chance that my husband and I ended up spending the weekend with you. Thank you, thank you, thank you! We are so grateful to have the tools we now have to help us on the wonderful journey of our marriage. We felt our scenario was a bit different than many others in our group, but had many similar struggles none the less. The entire workshop from start to finish was relevant, engaging and informational. The two of you together are like a well oiled machine. Your level of expertise and ease at which you presented very delicate topics put everyone at ease. The videos were all very touching and the sense of safety you created for all in the room was truly what allowed us to open up so freely. We are so ready and willing to move on and create a loving, happy and successful life together for us and our blended family. I feel so light and free right now thanks to your leadership and guidance. Many blessings to you both.
Thank you so much for this experience. Thank you for creating a safe environment for me and my wife to share our deepest emotions. While at times raw and deep, the exercises and conversations you helped facilitate will surely help us in growing a deeper and richer bond in our marriage. From the bottom of our hearts, thank you.
I feel like this weekend has changed my life! I felt like our relationship would never be okay, but you have given me hope. We now have tools and I feel we will be okay. It will be hard work but it is worth it. The both of you are exceptional facilitators. You know so much about the topic and leave no stone unturned. Please continue your great work! Thanks again.
I just want to say that this has been the nicest experience my wife and I have had in the entire 15 years that her and I have had as a couple. For that, I can't thank you enough.
I am so happy that my wife and I attended the HMT workshop. I have never been to any group environment before like this. The program really made me delve deeply into our relationship and myself. It brought out some inner feelings that have been buried forever while providing the tools to learn how to begin to communicate them with my wife. You both were great presenters of the program and it was evident that you both have a passion and knowledge of it. Because of this, I think that it was very effective. I really believe that we are in a much better place leaving than when we arrived. Now we need to continue into our daily lives with what we've learned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
This workshop experience has been one of the most profound experiences of our marriage. Although my husband and I communicate often, we can now identify our demon dialogue and we hope to have countless successes stopping it in its tracks. We've learned that we are not one another's enemies. Moreover, the "forgiving injuries" portion provided us with essential tools for moving on after hurts occur in our marriage. The activities and models (via video) helped us view our own relationship with a new lens. I've learned the rationale to many of my behaviors. I have the utmost confidence that your delivery, presentation and tools will strengthen our marriage. Best regards.
I am so grateful for this workshop. Before coming here this weekend I was feeling like my relationship was entering a hopeless place. With both of your help, I was able to understand my husband more than I have ever before, along with understanding some things that I hadn't realized about myself. I was able to open up about things I feel inside that I had pushed back because of that hopeless feeling and was also able to see things about my husband's feelings in a new light and realize that a lot of our fears were very much alike. I realized his pain was as great as mine. You have given us a fresh start and for that I am so incredibly grateful! Thank you both so much. I think this workshop is the best thing that could have happened to us.
I must admit that I was skeptical coming to your workshop. Having witnessed my parents attend a "Marriage Encounter" weekend back in the 80's that didn't go so well, I had a lot of fear that this weekend would make things worse. Not so!. I am so grateful for the closeness my husband and I have been able to achieve. The exercises were orchestrated in a way that allowed us to establish a deep level of trust that was necessary to break through fears that we've secretly been dealing with for decades. I have a certain amount of regret that we've wasted so much time. But I am so happy to be leaving here today in a place in our relationship that is both vulnerable and strong. You have helped us by giving us tools to move past hurt, fear, anger and shame. Thank you.
Thank you for bringing my wife and I closer. We are currently in separation and were moving towards a divorce. This workshop was incredibly helpful in understanding one another and listening to each other. I hope more couples take the chance to come and experience how fulfilling it really is.
Thank you for this opportunity! Opportunity to look at my marriage, revisit my fears in a safe place, and learn to share them with the man that holds my heart. Thank you for providing a secure place where my husband and I could learn how to communicate... and most of all, that we are not broken because of each other and unfixable. Instead, it is not our fault, and together we can have what we both want, a connection, through better communication and identifying the dance. This weekend has allowed me to see my husband more as a man with feelings and the importance of talking about our feelings in a safe way. I didn't realize what part I played until this weekend and I really appreciate that. Thank you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for the opportunity to offer this workshop experience - it truly has been wonderful. I needed to really become focused on how important this relationship process is in my life - to cherish and honor what a great fortune and gift I have in my relationship with my wife. I have renewed hope and optimism for life! Thank you for your service, thank you for your expertise and professionalism. I would highly recommend this workshop to any couple at any stage in their relationship.
Thank you for holding this workshop. It has been a great experience. Not always easy, but full of good and practical advice. I don't know how often I've thought how helpful the presentations and discussions were. You've opened my eyes many times. I feel we are much better prepared to address the challenges we may face. Thank you both.
I was apprehensive before arriving at the workshop not knowing what to expect. You both did a great job of relieving the apprehension with your approach to things. I learned a lot from the experience and it felt good to know we're not the only ones going through the challenges. The material struck multiple chords within me and made me realize several of the pitfalls we fall into. You guys gave me insights and triggers for me to recognize in our relationship to help avoid falling into some traps we tend to fall into. I would highly recommend this workshop, with you guys particularly, to anyone.
This workshop was so far beyond what I was expecting. Part of me was hesitant and nervous that it might now have the benefit I hoped for. I was so wrong. You both took deeply hard topics and discussions and guided us with ease and grace to where we needed to go. Without pushing, you directed us to places that we needed to go. Finally, you helped us find the tools we needed, without giving them to us. And you let us know to expect struggles as part of the process, so long as we keep trying. Thank you both for everything!
Thank you for sharing your time and knowledge with my husband and me and the rest of the group. It was a very emotional experience to be a part of - and I even got so much out of watching other couples have breakthroughs here this weekend. I am feeling raw from all we discussed, but its a good raw. Forcing me to bring issues to the surface even though it is much safer to keep them stuffed away. I leave knowing my husband loves me very much, that we still have a lot to work on, but also that we have come a long way! Hopefully when we walk through our "thorn bush" we will start to stop before we get stuck in it. And maybe eventually we will cut that "thorn bush" down. Many thanks.
This experience has been terrific. At first I was reluctant to attend, concerned that if we went off the rails would there be someone there to keep us on track without hurting each other more. But you both satisfied that concern with your attention to detail. I hope, hope, hope that we can continue to reach each other's deepest emotional vulnerabilities and provide a safe place to share our real feelings and needs. I know each of us will benefit from it.
This session meant and impacted us so much and hit home more than ever - the do's and don'ts - staying away from the demon dialogues. I truly loved and appreciated the safe and secure environment that was created through this workshop which allowed us to explore our relationship without falling into any dangerous pitfalls we so often find ourselves in. We came close but managed to come back and regroup. I just hope and pray we can take these tools and lessons and create a safe place ourselves when in the face of adversity. It feels like we may be able to help ourselves to create a safer and more loving relationship because of the workshop awareness. At the very least avoid the triggers that create the demon dialogues. Thank you.
Thank you so much for guiding us in the right direction to help us take the step towards each other rather than our usual pushing away. It will be hard but there were many points that you brought up that helped me to realize my part of the dance where I need to learn to acknowledge and accept my husband's step towards me and to take it in. You did this by really making this workshop informational as well as funny at times even though its such an emotional and exhausting journey. Thank you so much for your support!
I love my husband deeply and feel blessed, but have had a place of "missing" something. Being taught and then invited to experience what was learned opened up a piece to our relationship that is so valuable. I have unfairly accused my husband of being shut down emotionally, when in reality water seeks its own level. Debi gave me courageous feedback about my own disconnected process so I could then slow down and be more available. Both of you do a good clear job of explaining the Hold Me Tight process. You both exude a respect for the model and a playful appreciation for one another. This has been a great opportunity for strengthening our loving connection. Oh if others would be able and willing to partake it would make a huge difference in their marriage.
Wow. It is really hard to put into words the gift you have given to my marriage. I am exhausted, but in a good way. My husband and I love each other and have always known it, but that's it - we forgot how to feel it. You gave me the space to go to that vulnerable, insecure place with my husband, where I am afraid of rejection, being laughed at, being unlovable - You helped me feel safe enough to show him these fears, and more than that, you helped him to be there for me, and to open up to me, so I could be there for him. The gift you have given us is the best - invaluable gift - that keeps on giving - LOVE - a deeper love and connection. Debi & Alan - the human beings that you are, the accepting, generous, open human being that you are, is a gift for anyone who knows you. I feel so lucky to have met you - my life changed. I truly feel the next 30 years of my life are going to be the best. Thank you!
Wow. Thank you so much for your time, your effort, your passion, and most of all, your authenticity and vulnerability in running this workshop. What a special two days - time carved out of a chaos filled life - it was an amazing gift to be here and focus on our marriage. You both have a fabulous and warm partnership that compliments and balances each other and gives a rich, rounded touch to the HMT curriculum. Thank you so much!!!
Thank you so much for this HMT weekend. It definitely surpassed by hopes and expectations. It took me one year to convince my husband to come with me and we both arrived on Friday slightly anxious about what would happen. We really learned a lot. I was afraid we would not put our defenses down, but we did. Alan really helped my husband get to a new place of vulnerability on Saturday, and it was so connecting and moving for me to watch him allow himself to go there - that is a moment I will treasure and take with me. It was hard to get vulnerable during some of our private conversations, but regardless the conversations were still meaningful and helped move us to a new connected place. Thank you so much!!
Thank you for creating the space for us, safe and inspiring, for us to engage in meaningful conversations, difficult as they may be. Your setup - short presentations, followed by short and structured conversations in couples "private bubbles" - was quite effective - a loud crescendo - a gentle descent into deeper places. Your styles complemented each other's - your personal examples, from your lives and clinical experiences, were helpful for sure. The video clips and musical interludes were both moving and helped open up our hearts and understanding. Thank you much.
The workshop was a positive experience, I learned some things about myself that will help me be in touch with my feelings. It is hard to put aside what your brain is telling you and think with your heart. It made me realize how your growing up experiences are still with you and you bring them to your relationship. I hope I can use some things I've learned to keep improving our relationship. I was skeptical about this workshop - tried to read the book - wasn't too interested. But I found that seeing other husbands dealing with similar issues was helpful. Thank you both for caring enough to share your own feelings and presenting an interesting program.
Thanks for all your assistance during this workshop. I felt really held by the both of you when we had the opportunity to work together. You provided various ways to get the message across - through videos, role plays and open discussions. I just want to let you know how much I really appreciate that the combination of the two of you provided just the right amount of passion and calmness that we needed to go through this challenging material. Thank you!
Thank you both for spending some individual time with us as a couple during the workshop. I really appreciated Alan suggesting that I take and celebrate the moments of connection and vulnerability that my husband and I could share, rather then pursuing ruthlessly for more and staying/hiding behind my own protective walls. I enjoyed the pretty, sweet and loving music used during the workshop. I have been grateful for the opportunity we've had to learn more about our relationship and how to create our own special connection! Thank you always!
This workshop did not meet up to my expectations at all - not in the least. Here is the list: I did not feel humiliated nor was I clear about my multiple failures as a husband and human being. I did not feel tricked into sharing my guts with my wife in a way that I would rather have poked a sharp stick into my eye. The conversations with my wife did not lead to my head and heart exploding in stress and shame. I did not fall asleep at any time, or ever become bored to tears. I did not leave at odds or shamed to my wife - we left closer and loving more. I'm not hoping that this experience will quietly fade and be forgotten. I can't go home and say "that was stupid so lets just forget it and get back to our regular normal lives". Now I am compelled to actually use what we learned here at home for at least a week or two.
Our marriage retreat is based on the most successful model of couples therapy available today – Emotionally Focused Therapy – time tested and researched for over 25 years – and proven successful over 90% of the time.
We get to the heart of the matter – down to the core emotional issues that are driving your conflict and creating distance. We help you understand what is going wrong. And we show you how to change it and make things better – right away.
Our marriage retreat is led by two highly trained and experienced therapists who have completed rigorous training to become certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy and who specialize in helping couples improve their marriage – true relationship experts. We know how to fix relationships. And we will teach you how to fix yours in our 2-Day Couples Retreat.
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Here’s what you will learn:
What all relationships need to be healthy, happy and successful
How to find forgiveness, overcome past hurts and move forward
How to understand what drives conflict - and how to change it
How to communicate effectively and feel deeply heard
How to rebuild broken trust, safety and security
How to create and nurture emotional intimacy
How to keep your love alive and thriving
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